Mad_Cyril I sort of agree but let me present this scenario:
I live on my own in Leeds, my dad died a month ago so my mum is now on her own in Oldham and my brother lives in Wirral (with his family). Normally I would drive over to pick up my parents and take them to my brother’s and then drive them home again. I’m not so bothered about me but should my mum be made to spend Christmas alone?
I don’t have any answers nor am I trying to be a twat, I’m just pointing out that it’s not always straightforward.