NasserAlazzawi
Buy a load of new audio equipment Nass, that will solve it!
Seriously though, what Dan says. It’s a big change and a lot for everyone to adjust to. It’s pretty normal to feel like this.
Here if you need to reach out, if not fuck off 
Anger Management / fuck off thread
Also get on the MixPub chat, live now.
Some decent folk on there, similar vibe to your streams
If you need cheering up Nas, OLB is here to help!
Nas, i know this is probably not the conventional approach but hear me out - have you tried just getting really, really pissed up on cheap Cypriot ouzo for a few days and seeing if that clears your mental windscreen?
worth a shot if even just to cross it off the list? food for thought mate.
sending hugs x
Big hugs all round for Naz!
@NasserAlazzawi The 1st few months after my son was born were a complete blur. Whether you suffer with mental health or not its a struggle. I suffer from anxiety and during those first few months it started bubbling up but after a couple of weeks I was just too busy with the baby to think or start worrying about it so the anxiety never really took hold. 
The worst thing you can do is not talk with anyone about it. Discuss it with your partner but obviously pick your moments.
You will have ups and downs but i promise it gets easier after a few months.
Stay strong brother 
Just putting this here as well Nas, it all helps chief -
Shit
Neck
Cunt!!
It is a tricky one because you have to reorganise your lives in a way that is difficult to conceptualise before you have kids and that is difficult to get to grips with when the reality hits. The ‘assumption’ is that you need to just put your head down and get on with it ad nauseum, but in reality that’s not a long-term plan. One of the problems that can crop up is the division of labour (or at least it did for me). To some extent, the cards are stacked against you because there are things that only the woman can do e.g. breastfeeding and the likelihood is that they will, as a matter of course, just take more of the burden. The problem is that can lead to resentment even if not expressed directly.
This is easy for me to say now as I did a pretty shit job of it at the time but looking back on it, that is also the key to redress the balance so you can still do Nas stuff and not feel shite about it.
I think it is important to have Dad jobs that only you do, whether that is washing the bottles, doing housework or maybe the late evening feed (if she is expressing or you have introduced formula). That allows you to have decent things you can point to that are ‘proof’ that you are doing your bit. The second thing that can help (again, I’m far from a shining example of this) but if you can schedule time off for her so she gets a reasonable break (within the obvious limits of doing that between sleeps etc) it also allows you to schedule time away for you and gives you permission to do it without the guilt.
Definitely not an easy one and have made it sound easier than it is but if you can point to reliable examples of ‘that is what I do’ and this is when/how you get your ‘time off’ it just makes it much easier for you to balance your interests.
That is tough if you don’t have the family support network around you in Cyprus, which I guess places more emphasis on you both finding your own way. The option to spend time on music or other interests for me is essential and take those elements away and your life is out of balance and that is where low mood/depression can develop. Recommend doing exercise as your priority as that will get the endorphines going and give you a bit of levity from the sluggishness that can develop as you shuffle around the house all day.
The thing that isn’t helpful in this type of situation, work stuff, home issues is the subtext that you just have to crack on. People have an ability to absorb a lot but realistically you can’t be a robot.
NasserAlazzawi …it’s tough mate, as has been said, when the elation subsides (I read it as ‘erection’ and thought, I can’t remember that being an issue), reality kicks-in and unlike your missus, whose role is pretty much physically defined, nobody tells you what you should be doing. Lots of guilt and confusion, compounded by a lack of sleep. Paternity leave was a nightmare for me in that respect, my missus couldn’t wait for me to get back to work.
I managed ok after my first came along, but the first 6-months of having 2 just felt relentless and I found myself thinking ‘WTF have I done!?’. Then once a sleep routine of sorts finally kicked-in, things started to come back into focus… Number 3 was pretty much an afterthought tbh. Kids are remarkably adaptable, pretty much fended for herself
I don’t have kids, I have cats. It’s not for everyone, but I know which one I prefer. I’m also sure the universe is not lacking mini Hannus.
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Then once a sleep routine of sorts finally kicked-in, things started to come back into focus
That is often the turning point. Reminded me as well that most parents understandably want to do breastfeeding for as long as possible (obviously not as long as Mama Smalls still does with Ed) but a major factor that helps is getting onto formula because it is so much more filling and promotes more sleep as they are properly stuffed after formula. Think our first kid went onto formula by week 10-12 and things turned around over night with sleeping.