Fuck Gen Z and having to deal with their soft af, no-mark, entitled behaviour in a professional environment
Besides that, I’m good.
Lovely advice about dadhood from @whatever and @Unbroken1. Felt it and absolutely right. Wish someone told me the same 6 months back.
The missus and I decided to take care of our mini me without a nanny (yes the cook and cleaning lady made a massive difference for our peace of mind) for the first five months. And it soon dawned on me that I was useless when the missus decided she wanted to go all in on breast feeding, no bottle no formula. I’d spend about an hour or two of quality time a day, sometimes putting her to sleep. But not much else. A close friend gave us good advice, said you just need to come to terms with the fact the mother will be doing all the heavy lifting before you start solids. And once she’s moving and eating like a normal human, that’s when the father has to step up. There was some resentment in the early days, but I essentially made myself a butler for my wife, everything from cleaning up after her and the baby, changing diapers as much as possible, and making sure she was always eating and drinking. least I could do really. We’re also very lucky to have a hands-on mother in law who was always there for us when we needed a breather.
6th month, we’ve hired a live-in nanny, since maternity leave has ended. Game changer. Obviously not exactly affordable in the west, but if you can make it happen, just do it.
Anyone had any experience with “cry it out”? I had a Nri yank friend stay with us for a couple of weeks with his 1.5 year old son. What a mindfuck it was to hear the kid cry himself to sleep every other night. Don’t think we’ll ever go that route, but in terms of living on a schedule it worked for them. 7-8 he’d be crying, but like clockwork would be out from 8-7.
