On the first question, their society’s expectation is that women will get married and start a family, and most Chinese women buy into that too (theirs is in some ways a conservative society and they aspire to this rather than seeing it as ‘oppressive patriarchy’), so most Chinese women who are not married will be expecting the relationship to ‘go somewhere’ (i.e. be on a steady and constant path towards marriage, probably with propose within about a year).
You don’t get to play around with the 9s and 10s unless you can offer them that (and have serious income and hopefully are very good looking) because they know their value in the marriage marketplace, and also Westerners are not their preferred choice. The 7 and 8s are a possibility. You may even be interested in the 6s if you the type of bloke who is up for a nice face but a bit chunky, or a dodgy boat race with a nice body. All will have the same end goal in mind.
There is the occasional ‘alternative’ Chinese bird (punk, clubber) who will think differently, but you will have competition there because loads of people in the bar or club will fancy a bit of that.
You definitely need to install WeChat/Weixin because that’s all they use to communicate.
If you just fancy a bit of Chinese, 32-45 year old divorcees (on the rise) or bored housewives are often more receptive than Western women tbh. Because their community’s expectation that they will get married and have kids forces many people into unhappy marriages, having a bit on the side is actually quite culturally accepted - the husband may well already have a piece on the side if he is a man of means. So long as the ‘little third’ in the relationship never threatens the marriage itself, it often goes on for a long time.
