Mental Health

303abuser

Dubman i was just rubbing it in. 😉

Dan

Thom_Fuckery

Been a shit year for sure. I lost my mother to covid back in march. I couldn’t travel over to Blighty for her cremation due to lockdown. I haven’t worked for 7 months. I’m now thousands in debt with my landlord due to no income. No government aid from the french government due to having only worked 3 months prior(I’d just moved back to France from Hong Kong), where as if I’d worked 6 months I’d’ve been qualified to earn 80% of my salary. And just because life has a sick sense of humour the apartment above me recently had a burst pipe and my living room ceiling has basically crumbled. But a part from everything going to shit I’m keeping a positive mentality. Can’t say I’m more fucked up than usual. Although the death of my Mother has certainly woken me up to the fact that we’re not in fact invincible, and time definitely speeds up the older we get.

Anyway…Here’s friday’s mix for your aural pleasures. https://hearthis.at/2jgrqphy/161020/

303abuser

Thom_Fuckery that’s a rough year, losing people can be a really strange thing and makes you rethink life a bit. keep your head up. 🙂

Mad_Cyril

Thom_Fuckery
Impressed you’re keeping positive mate.

Sorry you’ve had such a shitty year 😔

SM001

Thom_Fuckery Lord that’s rough. Stay strong.

Dubman

Thom_Fuckery
I’m sorry for your loss mate.

IndustryStandard

Thom_Fuckery Sorry for your loss sir

loopdokter

Thom_Fuckery Although the death of my Mother has certainly woken me up to the fact that we’re not in fact invincible, and time definitely speeds up the older we get.

My condolences. Losing a parent is rough at any age, let alone not being able to say goodbye. 🙁

I lost my dad when I was 18 (not looking for sympathy, just stating a fact) and it took a good two years before it properly hit me. We all grieve differently and sometimes it really takes a good while to process. Stay on top of it and don’t be afraid to speak to people about your mental health. I only say this because I didn’t and it bit me in the ass and the consequences were awful.

Old-Dutch

Shit, so sorry to hear that fella. Hope you’re bearing up ok mate

loopdokter

I’m partial to depression as is… It runs in the family. Being ADD, that can also drive it too when things don’t go right and there’s been a lot of things not going right during all of this! I was off work from January to July and my motivation was next to nil. It was fine from January-March, because I was actively job-hunting but then we all started living in the Upsidedown. The companies I was interviewing with decided that they didn’t want to continue with hiring and I was quite literally in the final interview stages with a couple. Luckily an old boss thought of me and brought me on, but I’m making $5.00/hr less than I was before.

I’ve barely made any music. I like to be fit and active, so generally I play team sports or referee them to stay fit (and make a bit of dosh on the side), but I’m not a self-motivator so going for a run or working out on my own isn’t something that works for me. I need a time and a place to be and the thought of letting people down if I don’t go.

I’ve put on about fifteen pounds due to the inactivity over the past while due to the lack of sports, so it’s a real shitter when I’m used to being pretty damned fit. The upside is that on Sunday evenings I have started playing indoor 8-a-side footy, but it’s not enough. I need a few more activities to get the weight off and feeling just a lot healthier. Winter is coming too, so I’m hoping that means I’ll be more motivated to do music because that’s also really suffered. It looks like we’re headed for another lockdown again here in my province, so fuck knows what I’m going to do to figure out how to work off the weight. My Sunday football game is precarious under these circumstances.

I really want organized sports to come back. They’re a godsend for my depression. The upside is that I have a little fella now that provides endless entertainment and umconditional love, so those dark moments are few and far in between. It’s just the physically feeling better aspect that you get with aerobic activity I’m currently missing.

I’ve also oddly been on a few dates and such, which is certainly different during these times!

303abuser

loopdokter self motivation is a muscle that you have to work regularly. get a chin up bar, download the insanity videos, watch a david goggins motivational speach and get to it. took me probably 2 or 3 years, but i’m a bloody machine now when it comes to exercising when i don’t feel like it.

loopdokter

303abuser i am pretty concerned about winter though. running at -15 the last couple of days has been rough and getting outside when it’s -20 or colder isn’t enjoyable.

Remind me why again that you live in Edmonton? Haha. Fuck me.

We haven’t seen a dip below zero yet. It’s not quite Vancouver, but I’ll take Southern Ontario weather any day over that Alberta shit!

303abuser

loopdokter because my wife wasn’t into moving until this year. now i have to figure out how to move my business and everything that comes along with a major life change like that, but it’s coming. i think kelowna is a likely landing spot. right now it’s -10 and snowing enough to stick on the ground. my friend from ottawa was just here and he’s trying to convince me to go out that way. we’ll see, but change is long overdue.

i can’t handle this anymore. i have a client’s dog i’m doing a board and train with this week, planned it as it should be plus 10, had to quit after half an hour earlier today because my hands were frozen to the point they hurt. at least it hasn’t been cold out since mid may.

loopdokter

bosstrabs This is actually a great point. Bumbling buffoons with a sunny disposition in the workplace, like Smallman no doubt is. Breezes into a Zoom meeting, stir-frying ideas in his mind-wok, the fact that he’s the only one with any enthusiasm at 8am grabs the CEO’s attention, who then lets him skip breezily off, the ‘ideas man’ has just delivered an extra 200 non-billable hours of work to someone else’s desk. The competent person who actually has to implement it thinks about strangling his already distended neck and leaving his prostrate torso jiggling and popping in a grotesquely comic death dance, but having had a loving upbringing thinks better of it and just tops himself.

I’m praising you for how well this was written. The content is a tad grim, but bravo nonetheless!

IndustryStandard

Everything is generally a bit shiter……especially if you live in a semi- urban environment.

That has taken me and the Mrs a long time to come to terms with and has affected us. Had a week off work last week as had to take vacation. Went out a few times to the Jersey Shore to see the sea and had some meals out, freezing our bollocks off sitting outside. No real interest going into shops with lots of people. The things you’re used to doing you either cant do, are slightly shiter now or you are worried about getting Covid doing them. Thats causing a lot of mental stress. We are in our mid 40s so COVID is not really something we want to get.

Everyone is so used to a certain way of life , especially in Cities, all the above has to have a massive affect on people. Even going for a walk you should be wearing a mask here in Hoboken…….you never get away from the pandemic!

Being away from everyone, in the fresh air walking a dog is the way forward…plus exercise. Those are the only things that are keeping us sane at the moment…….but past generations have had it much worse so think we will be OK if we talk about things

Mad_Cyril

IndustryStandard think we will be OK if we talk about things

Very true

loopdokter

303abuser my friend from ottawa was just here and he’s trying to convince me to go out that way. we’ll see, but change is long overdue.

Fuck Ottawa too. It’s a lovely town, but they have the coldest winters of any capital in the entire world apparently - so not much better than Edmonton really.

Go west to the mountains or settle in Southern Ontario somewhere. There’s plenty of job growth in both areas. Alberta is a dead zone right now - plus you’ll be cowboy hat free. Mind you if you go west, you’ll be trading that for Birkenstocks and hippies, so I don’t know which is better. Although I dare say pseudo-hippies is better than some angry white conservative gun toting man raging on about ‘those damned immigrants taking my job in the oil industry’ that voted for Jason Kenney.

loopdokter

303abuser self motivation is a muscle that you have to work regularly. get a chin up bar, download the insanity videos, watch a david goggins motivational speach and get to it. took me probably 2 or 3 years, but i’m a bloody machine now when it comes to exercising when i don’t feel like it.

I’m in absolute agreement that it takes some work to do, but having been a competitive athlete and done all of that zen type shit already in a past life (I ran cross country for my uni), I know I need to have a time and place to be or it will get put off. That’s the ADD side of me. It’s not so much my not wanting to do it vs. finding something else to do and forgetting about my having to do it. 😉 ADDers thrive upon rigid scheduling - even if we rebel against it.

If I had a friend/partner who did it with me and said, “Hey, it’s time for excercise now!” then I’d do it. I know what works for me after 44 years and it’s why I love team sports. You have to be there or you’re letting a bunch of other people down, plus wasting whatever it cost to register - which is always a lot of money.

Kells77

Dubman Honestly….no. I hadn’t. Because it’s always been able to calm me down. But I’m wondering now. Thanks for pointing that out 🙂

SM001

Kells77 Might be worth testing the hypothesis. A couple weeks off the weed, couple weeks on, couple weeks off, couple weeks on… Might work out in the long run.

Kells77

SM001 Yeah I was thinking the same 🙂

303abuser

i find my sweet spot is around 2-3 times per week. any more than that and i’m chasing the dragon and there’s more downside than not. i’ve tried out longer stretches on and off and that just works best for me.

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