Mental Health

Kells77

SM001 Yeah I was thinking the same 🙂

Along_the_Wire

Sorry @Thom_Fuckery, that’s a shocker for sure mate.

Smallman1

Very sorry to hear about you losing your mother Thom Fuckery.

Get 2020 out of the way and 2021 will be way better for you.

Dan

Gutted for you Thom.

I find playing tennis about 3 times a week is helping, and going over the pub on Friday mornings for a BLT and a few pints of spitfire.

bosstrabs

Frequent boozing and chonging simply do not help anything.

Not talking about a couple of beers a few times a week. I mean daily/heavy use of either.

Knocked the daily evening boozing on the head in my late twenties.

Jules72

bosstrabs yeah… if you are drinking or taking any drugs, and feel down, it’s pretty obvious what you have to do…. mental health is probably the single most important area of my life after depression issues while at uni and during my divorce - I will do whatever I need to to make sure I don’t go there again.

loopdokter

bosstrabs Knocked the daily evening boozing on the head in my late twenties.

So many people forget that alcohol is a depressant.

LT42

All good here, have lots to look forward to thankfully, which I think has been a major factor for those struggling during these strange times. Moving to Bodrum, starting a family, getting a gaming PC, new car, better climate, new company. Loads of positives so I’d be some prat if I wasn’t grateful and spent my time moping about. Like I say, I feel lucky things are working out despite the situation.

Although I do fly back to Ireland for a month or two on Monday and they’ve just gone in to level 5 lockdown. Stupid bastards, they had one job.

NasserAlazzawi

Mad_Cyril I hear you. The only way I find out of this is to make a plan to do / be about something

The people doing the best out of the situation have a reason to get up and do something.

They plan to go somewhere
They look after someone / children.
They have busy work lives, Covid maybe made their line of work more spiced up / in demand

The reasons seem to have to be bigger than you. If you can serve somebody else that’s a nice feeling that we’re all wired up to feel good about (not just instantly but longer term).

For me personally all I’ve got is Music as my amazon business is on hold due to Covid (all stock stuck in China because transportation costs have spiked) so I have made a point of learning new skills relating to DJing which has enabled me to share moments with people who I’m missing and also new people. That feels exciting in the run up, during and afterwards I have recorded material to share and there’s a bit of legacy.

But yeah man, when I’m not doing that I’m on the sofa with my dogs watching netflix and by the third day of that I’m bordering depression.

There’s plenty we can do and I can only recommend you find something to do that you want/enjoy (which there will be plenty of when we turn the news off).

NasserAlazzawi

Another one that’s helped us is to change the scenery by doing something a bit backwards - i.e. going somewhere miles further to shop in place thats loads different to the same boring old shop. Changing where I go reminds my brain there’s more out there (including the drive through different scenery), shows me that the world is alive out there and people are outside my house getting on with stuff, and gives me a challenge (I don’t know where everything is so I’m really in the moment trying to find the damn beetroot!)

sbando

Smallman1 never underestimate the benefits of exercise!

A good way to keep the demons at bay.

NasserAlazzawi

+1 on exercise.

Ideally in the morning (T shirt, shorts, trainers by your bedside just wake up, go out and RUN / WALK with headphones / music or a positive podcast on)

Changes the entire flavour of the day. Some people call it ‘shaking off the cobwebs’ but its really all about getting more blood into the prefrontal cortex and some sunlight (even through cloud) into the back of your retina to boost your mood. If you can’t do mornings, get outside at lunch.

loopdokter

303abuser self motivation is a muscle that you have to work regularly. get a chin up bar, download the insanity videos, watch a david goggins motivational speach and get to it. took me probably 2 or 3 years, but i’m a bloody machine now when it comes to exercising when i don’t feel like it.

I’m in absolute agreement that it takes some work to do, but having been a competitive athlete and done all of that zen type shit already in a past life (I ran cross country for my uni), I know I need to have a time and place to be or it will get put off. That’s the ADD side of me. It’s not so much my not wanting to do it vs. finding something else to do and forgetting about my having to do it. 😉 ADDers thrive upon rigid scheduling - even if we rebel against it.

If I had a friend/partner who did it with me and said, “Hey, it’s time for excercise now!” then I’d do it. I know what works for me after 44 years and it’s why I love team sports. You have to be there or you’re letting a bunch of other people down, plus wasting whatever it cost to register - which is always a lot of money.

303abuser

loopdokter yeah that’s fair, i’m actually the complete opposite. i can just get up and exercise whenever and sinking money into something doesn’t motivate me to keep doing it (see unused gym memberships).

loopdokter

303abuser my friend from ottawa was just here and he’s trying to convince me to go out that way. we’ll see, but change is long overdue.

Fuck Ottawa too. It’s a lovely town, but they have the coldest winters of any capital in the entire world apparently - so not much better than Edmonton really.

Go west to the mountains or settle in Southern Ontario somewhere. There’s plenty of job growth in both areas. Alberta is a dead zone right now - plus you’ll be cowboy hat free. Mind you if you go west, you’ll be trading that for Birkenstocks and hippies, so I don’t know which is better. Although I dare say pseudo-hippies is better than some angry white conservative gun toting man raging on about ‘those damned immigrants taking my job in the oil industry’ that voted for Jason Kenney.

303abuser

loopdokter oh it’s way better than edmonton. knowing people that have lived in both places, i don’t think it’s that comparable. and our winters are getting longer and colder every year.

anything is better than alberta. add in the brain-drain that’s already started and this province is going to be detroit in 15 years. i like the interior of BC, beautiful place, weather is very tolerable, and i can run my business in a place like kelowna with no problems. because of the demographics there, i might even be able to charge more than i do here.

Smallman1

Oh I don’t know, a glass of rouge most nights cheers me right up.

seanc80

Smallman1. In between bouts of depression?

NasserAlazzawi

Smallman1 Half a bottle of Gin and one’s top comes off!

Matt

Micro dosing mushrooms semi regularly does wonders for my state of mind.

303abuser

Matt the wife has been experimenting with that over the last 6 months and it really seems to keep her anxiety to a manageable level.

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